Common Mistakes First-Time Mums Make (and How to Avoid Them)

Becoming a mum is one of the most exciting and overwhelming journeys in life. There’s so much advice, so many voices, and sometimes, the fear of “doing it wrong” can feel louder than your baby’s cry.

The truth? Every first-time mum makes mistakes. But with the right knowledge and support, you can avoid the common ones and make your parenting journey smoother—especially in the Nigerian context where culture, family expectations, and limited resources play a big role.

Let’s explore some of the most common baby care and postpartum mistakes first-time Nigerian mums make and how to avoid them.

1. Trying to Do Everything Alone

Many new mums feel they must “prove themselves” by doing it all – cooking, cleaning, caring for baby, entertaining visitors.

What to do instead:

• Accept help from trusted friends and family
  
• Focus on bonding and recovery
  
• Delegate house chores if possible
  

Remember: You’re recovering from birth. This is not the time to be a superwoman.

2. Over-Bathing or Over-Cleansing Baby

Nigerian mums often believe babies should be bathed multiple times a day, especially in hot weather.

Why it’s a mistake:

• Newborn skin is delicate and prone to dryness
  
• Frequent washing strips natural oils
  

What to do instead:

• Bathe baby 2–3 times weekly
  
• Do sponge cleans on other days
  
• Use mild, fragrance-free products
  

3. Ignoring Your Own Health

So much attention is on the baby that mums forget themselves – skipping meals, not resting, ignoring warning signs.

What to do instead:

• Eat well and hydrate
  
• Rest when baby sleeps
  
• See a doctor if you feel off physically or emotionally
  

You matter too.

4. Believing Every Piece of Advice

From your aunties to your neighbour, everyone has a “solution” to your baby’s cries, rashes, or sleep patterns.

What to do instead:

• Filter advice. Stick to your doctor or certified professionals
  
• Don’t be afraid to say, “Thank you, I’ll try what works for me.”
  

Too many voices can cause confusion and stress.

5. Skipping Baby’s Tummy Time

Tummy time helps with muscle development and motor skills, but it’s often neglected.

What to do instead:

• Start tummy time from the first few weeks (supervised, of course)
  
• Place baby on your chest or a soft mat for short periods daily
  

6. Not Learning Baby’s Hunger or Sleep Cues

Crying is usually the last signal of hunger or sleep.

What to do instead:

• Learn early signs: rubbing eyes, turning head, sucking hands
  
• Respond before baby gets overtired or too hungry
  

This reduces crying and helps the baby settle faster.

7. Not Creating a Sleep-Friendly Environment

Too much noise, light, or heat can make it hard for your baby to sleep.

What to do instead:

• Use blackout curtains and a quiet space
  
• Keep baby cool with light sleepwear
  
• Establish a gentle bedtime routine
  

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8. Spending Too Much on Fancy Baby Items

It’s easy to feel pressured to buy everything from bottle warmers to wipes warmers.

What to do instead:

• Stick to essentials first (diapers, clothes, bath items, sleep gear)
  
• Add non-essentials only if needed
  

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9. Comparing Your Baby to Others

“My friend’s baby slept through the night in 2 weeks.”

Why it’s a mistake:

• Every baby is different
  
• Comparisons lead to unnecessary worry
  

What to do instead:

• Focus on your baby’s unique rhythm
  
• Celebrate small wins without comparison
  

10. Ignoring Mental Health

Postpartum blues or depression can affect any mum. It’s often overlooked due to stigma or silence.

What to do instead:

• Talk to someone – a partner, friend, or therapist
  
• Join a support group (online or offline)
  
• Don’t wait until you feel overwhelmed
  

Your mental health is just as important as your baby’s well-being.

Final Thoughts

Being a first-time mum is a learning curve. You’ll make some mistakes but that’s okay. What matters is learning, adjusting, and loving your baby through it all.

With the right tools, knowledge, and support (hello, Chikaro!), you’ll thrive not just survive.